I want my friends to please quit saying I'll find someone else when I won't. I am NOT just "being negative"!

I want to scream and get VERY angry at people who've witnessed my hideously protracted and complex breakup with my uncommon outlaw husband of 10 years and tell me the same old other fish in the sea CRAP when they don't know the complications. They're too complex to describe here, but I need a certain exact physical and mental type or there's no ual interest to me. But longhaired guys w/ no beard, genius intellect, obsessive devotion to his art, music, activism, writing etc. NEED to be there. I'm 41, , hep c, exjunkie on methadone, used to work industry, 200 lbs (5'8") w/bizarre occult interests. Not what guys who I would WANT to have anything to do with would think of as a great catch. I can feel good about self, but he was IT, partnerwise, and anyone else would feel like less. I refuse to "settle for" someone who makes me feel less, as it would both be boring for me & also hurt the other guy. How can I get friends to stop telling me I'll find someone else? I WON'T.